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Do
not think of a green giraffe - now, what did you just think
of ? And by the way, I did tell you not to think of that
...
And do you usually think about what you want in your life
(health and fitness, a successful career, loving relationships,
financial security), or do you think about it in terms of
what you don't want, (not wanting to be sick any more, the
problems at work, not wanting to be in abusive relationships,
not being broke all the time) ? And what did you just think
of ?
You see, we
get what we think about. And we think faster than we realise.
And there are more cells in the human body than there are
stars in five galaxies. And every cell is affected by what
we think.
Makes you think,
doesn't it ?
What is Neuro-Linguistic
Programming (NLP)?
NLP teaches you HOW you do what you do: HOW you take in
information from the world around you, WHAT you do with
that information inside your head, and HOW what you do results
in states such as happiness or depression, a body that is
healthy or dis-eased and behaviour that supports you in
getting what you think about (which is not necessarily what
you think you want).
The Neuro part
of NLP refers to our neurological system and the way we
use our 5 senses to translate our experience into thought
processes, both conscious and unconscious. It highlights
the way in which everything is part of the same whole -
literally, as we think, as we speak, so we feel and we act.
Linguistic
refers to how we both create and reveal to ourselves and
others our unique model of the world, the way we think about
it and the way we experience it. Our language speaks volumes,
including sayings such as "stabbed in the back"
or "one for sorrow, two for joy".
Programming
refers to the processes and strategies - the specific steps
we go through - to achieve the affects we get. There is
sequence of thoughts and behaviours that results in our
experience.
A complicated
name for a simple process ?
The founders of the system were John Grinder, a linguist,
and Richard Bandler, a mathematician and computer programmer
who became a student of psychology. Together, at the University
of California, Santa Cruz in the early 1970s, they were
studying how the mind works. And when they put all the key
elements of their expertise and experience together and
asked themselves "What shall we call this body of work
?", the answer they came up with was Neuro Linguistic
Programming.
How does it
work ?
As human beings we live in a 5 sensory world. We take in
all information through our 5 senses. Now, if we took in
everything that comes to us at the rate of 3 million bits
of information per second, we'd fry our circuits. So to
deal with it - to make the pieces of information into small
enough chunks to deal with - we filter the information.
Some of the
filters are our perceptions of time and space, energy and
matter; the language we use and our understanding of words
and meanings; our memories; the unique ways we go about
making decisions; the patterns we look for when selecting
information; our values and beliefs and our overall attitude.
And we delete,
distort and generalise information according to our unique
filters.
Once we have
passed incoming information through all these filters, we
take what has got through and we make an internal representation
of it. This internal representation is in the form of a
sensory perception: a picture with sounds, feelings, tastes
and smells.
The next thing
that happens (instantaneously) is that we react to the internal
representation and enter a corresponding state. What is
a state ? Well, being happy is a state; so is depression.
Being "fired up" is a state, so is tiredness or
lethargy. Many people are familiar with the expression "It's
a state of mind" but what's really interesting about
the state is what happens next (and again, it happens instantaneously).
Firstly, it
is the state that leads us to choose corresponding behaviour.
Secondly, the internal representation and the resulting
state have an instant reflection in our physiology. The
"fight or flight" syndrome is the best known example
of this. There's the caveman walking along the path and
out jumps a sabre-tooth tiger. The caveman's body immediately
reacts: the arousal system kicks-in, there's a surge of
adrenalin into the system, the breathing rate goes up and
more oxygen enters the lungs, the heart pumps the blood
stronger and faster through the system and simultaneously
the blood drains away from the extremities, not only so
that it can be used more effectively internally but so that
if the caveman decides to fight, he won't bleed so much
should he be cut.
In a nutshell
then, we have a process which starts with information and
ends with behaviour and physical manifestation.
NLP both stems
from and is an enormous and well-documented body of work.
It draws from and incorporates work from the disciplines
of semantics, linguistics, gestalt therapy, family therapy,
behaviourism, hypnosis and quantum physics.
Studying NLP
is like starting a journey - a journey into consciousness.
It looks not for right or wrong choices, but for the reason
(positive intention) for the choice. It looks for the patterns
and draws into conversation the parts involved in creating
our experience. It reveals that "the map is not the
territory", our memories and woes are perceptions and
we can take up a position meta to them so that we can get
the learning and let go of the emotion.
The NLP journey
is about increasing awareness ... increasing awareness of
the information that is available to us and the realisation
that we can choose how we deal with that information. We
begin to see that that different choices will get different
results. As our awareness increases, so we become more resourceful.
By realising that we have more resources available to us
than we thought, and by using more of our innate capability,
we gain greater flexibility. And so we grow.
In the end,
NLP is about results. By understanding the processes that
we all use, we can find out exactly what it is that successful
people do - and do it ourselves. And if, like most of us,
there is old baggage getting in the way, let's clean it
up and let it go. How do you know when you've let go of
a negative emotion ? Because you can feel the difference.
You can feel the difference not just in your body but in
your energy levels and you can think about old events without
any "heat" on the memories.
So if you know
anyone who says they're "stuck" or "helpless"
or they "can't" change - introduce them to NLP:
the art and science of excellence, a powerful and practical
approach to personal change, the new technology of achievement.
Why and for
whom is NLP useful ?
- When your effectiveness depends on your ability to communicate
- When you
have to get your point across to a variety of people
- When you
need to be able to trigger motivation in yourself and others
- Take the
pain out of implementing organisation and personal change
- Inculcate
a spirit of curiosity and joy of learning
- Shorten
the sales cycle and guarantee customer satisfaction
- Increase
self-knowledge and self-esteem
- Improve
relationships
- Take control
of your own emotions
- Set goals
that are really meaningful and achieve them
What do you work with ? - Attitude - develop curiosity, flexibility and love of learning
- Relationship
skills - how to get on better with anyone
- Questioning
and influencing - how to gather high quality information
and influence others with words
- Thinking
skills - how to run your own brain
- States
of Excellence - how to manage your feelings
- Beliefs
- how to change them
- Purpose
- what is really important to you in life
- Change
Techniques - probably the most powerful and rapid change
technique around
- Wisdom
- to know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate
work - the ecology of change (if it ain't broke, don't fix
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